God bless those of you who still subscribe and read my ramblings, you really are good people.
I’ve found out that as you drift into your 40′s, you don’t know much more than you did in your 20′s and 30′s. The big bump in the road is that you think you do. That’s what bites you in the ass. You’ve made assumptions about things based on what you think is life experience, but is more than likely some form of justification to make you comfortable.
And if you haven’t learned by now comfort is a killer. More on that some other time.
As circumstances in my life change — and I change, you’ll see less and less articles on fatherhood. To be honest, I never wanted to be a “Daddy Blogger” as they call it. It just always pissed me off that dads kill themselves every day, love the hell out of their kids and really get no credit. I saw a gap out there and hope I did my small part because momentum has swung little over towards our side the past 4-5 years.
It was always funny to see parenting or fatherhood expert next to my name. The reality was that I peddled in common sense and loved my kids enough to read and learn how to help them through life. My articles and blogs were views on life, ways to share what I learned or to tell a funny story. The only thing I love more than laughing is making others laugh. That’s juice you don’t get in a board room.
Now all that being said, I’m still a hired gun and will write to put food on the table. Need an 3000 word piece on why we need hair metal in 2011? I’m your guy. A blog post on boots every guys needs in his closet? Done. Ten pages on what it feels like to be fired with a two day old daughter in ICU? Yep, I’ll have it to you by the end of the day.
In this next chapter, I’m going to start focusing on another sliver of society that’s overlooked. Those at the “crossroads of life.” When life tends to flip you upside down just to let you know that everything you thought you knew was bullshit. I’ve renamed the blog “Shake Your Foundation” because I think that’s what happens one way or another around this age. Your foundation is shaken by a massive career change different way of living your life. It’s also a cool AC/DC song.
There will be more questions than answers. But hopefully those questions will make you think. And yes, there will be laughs. Plenty.
More than anything I want to focus on the stuff that we assumed that would happen and now found out isn’t true. Like the fantasy that if you work hard you’ll be taken care of, that owning a house is the American Dream or that you’re guaranteed a retirement after 40 years of busting your hump. Life is hard and you have to find your own way.
Remember, life is what happens when you’re busy making plans. Damn I love that line.
We get ourselves into all kinds of trouble when we stop asking questions and assume we have all the answers. I make fun of Boy #1 because he asks me 500 questions a day, but I don’t worry about his future because that curiosity will do more for him than any degree ever will.
It’s the people who ask “why“ that change the world, not the ones who memorize enough to get an “A” or always do exactly as they’re told. Fight the power, you’re never too old to live life the way you want.
- Forced or not ↩